"The model in the mind is typically relied on to the extent that a person believes they already know what they are modeling."
This is why so many errors of assumption are made before people are finished talking. An incorrect evaluation of one's internal model, due to fuzzy construction methods best used in survival and basic needs fulfillment, leads to assumptions which are not correctly discarded during a reading or conversation on a particular topic.
This is also partly why people don't want to give up political errors; the other part is a tribal association, in that the "politics of my people" cause someone to cling to those politics even when visibly erroneous, especially under pressure (when most people try to cling to each other for survival reasons).
Thus, taking responsibility for one's mind requires an evaluation of the foundations of one's belief, with attempts to argue *against* oneself. Unfortunately, most people attempt this without valid scientific training, and thus argue themselves out of healthy and functional positions.
The correct method would be to create a model, and then test it against one's observations and the world as such. If the model does not match the world, one's observations may in fact be erroneous, but one should attempt to adapt the model anyway and try again. The problem is usually in erroneous foundational beliefs (such as "guns are always good/evil") which are filtering one's observations and blocking details which would support a more accurate model.
This is why I'm waiting to tell my family to their faces that I'm transgendered. They read my blog. I'm in a situation where survival requires compromises with people who presume that a political affiliation that half the nation shares is a sign of insanity. On top of that, each small gesture to say that "I am not exactly like you" in the presence of my nephews (such as a brief comment indicating that I am a Pagan, not a Christian) is dismissed or condemned as a wrong committed against the family. Why should I share anything more important?
This entry was originally posted at http://zeeth-kyrah.dreamwidth.org/24726.h